I'm an old fashioned gal at heart, I also have a Goodreads profile. If you're on there hmu and we can humblebrag together and pretend we've read lots of books. Joking. I don't have many books on my lists but I have read each one.
I am about halfway through writing a (probably terrible) novel which I started in February this year, after almost a year of thinking about it.
It may not be terrible, but I don't mind if people think it is. Its cheaper than therapy, which is the point.
Its about Women and alienation, which doesn't sound funny but it is *intended* to be a comedy novel.
Things I have learned so far. Writing is really really hard. I manage about 500 to 1000 words a day on good days.
I keep keep meaning to tag my Toots about books and writing, but keep forgetting. So, anyway, #books #BooksOnMasto The used copy of La Bâtarde I bought arrived and the seller had, for no reason, gift wrapped it. So I can recommend Gillian James Books. Also when I opened the wrapper, I got this massive and thrilling aroma of used bookstores, its impossible to describe. Its like they smell of the past. If the TARDIS has a smell I bet its like a used bookstore.
A famous swimmer spent hundreds of thousands of pounds on eight cycles of IVF treatment in a desperate attempt to become pregnant, finally succeeding on try eight.
She thinks being transgender is messing with biology and evolution does a pretty good job. Despite evolution selecting her to be childless.
What good is a law "protecting" against discrimination/abuse if the ones discriminated against/abused can't afford to take time off work to take their bosses/landlords to court?
The fact that trans people aren't protected from job/housing discrimination under law in most states is only half the equation. Even if we somehow ended up with federal protection, we'd still be suffering simply due to making so little that even a day off work means we lose everything.
There's also a movie about Violette Leduc's life based on her memoir, which is really enjoyable. (The movie that is.) https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sdDah6rDnNY
Obviously my favourite brand of wrapped sugar cube is Wankhaus.
trans suicide, UK, swearing
Un-fucking-believable. This guy'd been waiting *six years* for Tavistock to deign fit to give him the time of day. He kills himself. This paper, and seemingly the mother, weighs in about the "illegal online clinic" he started with last year: GenderGP. Who've been treating gods know how many hundreds of trans people in the past three years or so, with waiting times in *weeks*, not damn *years*.
And nobody fucking thinks to connect the delay to his suicide, but blame these "outlaws" (no, they're not) instead? JFC. What the fuck will it take for the GICs to get their head out of their oh-so-professional arses?
I also wrote this, it's a bit garbled but also expresses the harm systematic transphobia/cis-normativity does. "Because we're not allowed to be 'normal'* we become the abnormal thing, and even the most normative trans woman, the most cis-like, aren't allowed to fit."
*normal in the sense of general ideas of norms. Like same sex marriage is beginning down the road of being normal, trans women haven't really been given that same opportunity yet.
Where society forces trans women to exist in that atomised state, it robs you of your opportunities to embrace personhood and learn who you are. Anything which does that, steals someone's development as a person, affects everything in their life. I wrote in my notebook yesterday "When you strip a person of who they are you destroy their future." and that sums up what I'm feeling.
Some of the reviews of La Bâtarde on good reads are great, I'm looking forward to reading it https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/99089.La_B_tarde
Being around cis people, and watching the ease with which so many of you are able to function in every type of normative social hierarchy always sends me through these convolutions and contortions of "What the fuck *is* it all about Alfie?"
And on that note, I'm going to stop spamming you and conclude with one of Cher's loveliest vocal performances ever, because it makes me happy. SorryNotSorry.
When I look at cis people, and the basic social resources available to most of them for guidance in becoming a person, I'm kind of envious.
There was until the past three or four years nothing for young trans femme kids to use as a guide Even now the most prominent voices are either mainly aimed at other parts of the transgender spectrum or completely normative. To succeed you have to be more cis than the cis. But mostly it was and is like searching for water in a desert.
Transgender Woman.....highly experienced field operative. [Witty attempt to conceal my terrible mental health goes here.]
I read and write and make things.
Generalistic and moderated instance.